Tools/Techniques

How to Love Yourself More?

by Shervin on July 17, 2017

Why is that we may love and respect others more than ourselves? Why is it that we are kinder and gentler with others than ourselves? Although typically we are harder on ourselves, this does not answer the above question. Have you met someone who appears to be “perfect” and you do not like them because […]

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Does it Really Matter?

by Shervin on June 18, 2017

You may be feeling overwhelmed and stuck. Your mind may be racing and you are not able to focus during the day or sleep at night. How can you manage this challenging situation? One needs to re-focus on the big picture. List all the issues that are bothering you. Assume that your life ends in […]

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Prayer

by Shervin on May 8, 2017

What is a prayer? How do you communicate and connect with the Universe?  What language do you use? What makes a prayer more effective? I am contrasting two approaches to praying in this article. Imagine image of someone praying by verbally begging in despair for something with the energy of helpless-ness and lack. Another image […]

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Feeling Vs Being

by Shervin on April 24, 2017

For many us, including myself, our known and safe world is changing rapidly. Many of our hidden fears are coming to surface to be resolved and we may feel overwhelmed due to them. The good news is that in middle of what appears to be very chaotic, we can have a positive impact. It is important […]

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Answer Within You

by Shervin on March 26, 2017

You probably have heard the phrase “the answer is within you.” It is comforting to know that we all have the answer within us. Also, it is frustrating if we do not hear the answer clearly. How do we tap into the answers within? We typically have answers to other people’s problems and we are […]

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Ordering From Menu

by Shervin on February 13, 2017

If you are hungry and go to your favorite restaurant, how will your order your food?  Will you tell  the waitress: “I do not want to eat hamburger, I got sick when I ate one last year in an airport” “I do not want spaghetti it gave me hurt burn in restaurant across from you” […]

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How Is It Serving You?

by Shervin on January 16, 2017

Everything serves us until we let it go. If you are struggling with something that is frustrating you (weight, next dream project, relationship), most likely the struggle is between your thoughts and you emotions. You likely know what are the right things to do and yet you may be sabotaging your effort regarding taking the […]

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Why?

by Shervin on December 5, 2016

Most people want all the nice things such as good relationship, happiness, spirituality, fit body, great finances but are not committed to deal with challenges and associated sacrifice to get what they want. For most part we have to earn what we desire and nothing valuable is free. For example, most people want to be […]

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7 Effective Ways to be Miserable!!!

by Shervin on October 23, 2016

If you are feeling helpless or unhappy you may consider some of the reasons below that can easily sap your joy, excitement and peace from your life. 1- Codependency: Our happiness is solely based on happiness of spouse or family members or a friend. We lose sense of who we are and what we want, […]

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Dark Night of the Soul

by Shervin on August 30, 2016

When you are in the dark night of your soul, almost everything that you believed in may be challenged. Everything that you may have spent so much time on, you may let go of. You may doubt everything and everyone. Everything may lose its meaning and pleasure. It is death of old self and what […]

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Friends in the Mirror

by Shervin on June 19, 2016

Like attracts like. We can learn about ourselves by looking at attributes and challenges of our best friends or clients. Your friends at the surface may have diverse interests, have different nationalities or beliefs. They may be married or unmarried. On the surface nothing may seem to be in common between you and your friends. […]

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What Do you value the Most?

by Shervin on April 11, 2016

What do you value the most in your life? Do you spend your time wisely on experiencing and attaining those values? Sometimes we are so busy with tasks that we do not stop and question if what we are doing is the best way to achieve what we value. For example, let us consider work. […]

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Comfort Zone

by Shervin on December 21, 2015

Where is your comfort zone? What is it that scares you about crossing the comfort zone? What are you avoiding? Getting out of comfort zone is directly proportional to our growth and happiness. Have you done something that you felt uncomfortable doing and after doing it you felt good about yourself? Remember, the interview, the […]

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Moment Of Truth!

by Shervin on November 23, 2015

Are you honest with yourself? Are you blaming others for most of your challenges in your life? This discussion is about acknowledging our role in our lives and empowering ourselves to change what we desire to improve. If we blame others for things in our lives then we will always be a victim and most […]

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Be Quiet and Listen First!

by Shervin on August 31, 2015

Most of us do not like to feel our emotions, especially our ‘negative’ ones such as anger, fear and helpless-ness. This issue not only impacts us, it also impacts our friends and loved ones. Imagine that your friend calls you and he is upset about a difficult situation. What is your first reaction?  For most […]

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Steps to Reduce Worrying

by Shervin on July 6, 2015

Do you worry a lot? Worry is created from disconnect from higher Self and lack of faith and trust in the Universe. Worry has many forms: worry about health, any form of loss, finance, rejection, being wrong, ridiculed and not being good enough among many others. Worry is a form of protection to reduce the […]

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Three Steps to Energize Your Life

by Shervin on June 21, 2015

Do you feel you have low energy?  Is it hard to get motivated and be focused? Besides eating well and exercising, there are at least three steps you can take by yourself without spending any money to re-energize yourself and your life. Be more present:  How much of your time do you spend focusing on […]

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Criticism

by Shervin on June 7, 2015

Do you like to be criticized? If not, why not? May be it is due to conclusions you arrive from criticism. People who have been raised by perfectionist care givers tend not to like criticism and actually are very self-critical. It is a way to protect themselves by beating themselves up with criticism before anyone […]

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What is the Benefit of Your Bad Habit?

by Shervin on March 29, 2015

How do your bad habits serve you? Please do not promptly say “they do not!” Dig in a bit deeper. We need to accept we are doing our best that we can based on our belief system. In a sense we are perfect in this moment! I regularly attend Toastmasters. In one of the meetings […]

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I Will Not Abandon You!

by Shervin on February 16, 2015

Do you sometimes feel your energy is sucked out of you? Is it sometimes hard to move forward? Perhaps you are not taking care of yourself. Maybe you need more sleep, water or better food. It is also very likely that you are ignoring the voices of your inner child and not listening or acknowledging […]

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