Unmet Needs

by Shervin on January 13, 2020

We know nutritious food, exercise, meditation, laughter are all good for us. We also know certain behaviors are not good for us. When we mention to our friends or family, “You know this is good for you, why you do not do it?”, We hear, “I know!”. Why we do not do things that benefits […]


Lessons Of The Year

by Shervin on December 31, 2019

I like to share with you some reflections on 2019. I was humbled to be wrong so many times during the year. Many of my projections, which logically should have happened, did not happen! Those issues were all important and related to my sense of well-being and security. At times I felt scared, worried, frustrated. I pulled […]


Doing the Right Thing for The Wrong Reason

by Shervin on December 15, 2019

Our reasons in doing things matters a lot. Finding out about our real motives is a great way to know ourselves and make necessary changes if we chose so. Let us look at some reasons for doing something right with two different motives. –  Reason for helping people    1- Love to help others   […]


Altering Your Mood

by Shervin on December 2, 2019

You have heard the statement that you create your own reality and potential happiness. Is it true? I agree with the above statement based on my own experiences where changing one thought can change my mood. There may be events that we may not have control of or at surface is not our own creation. […]


Saying Yes To You!

by Shervin on November 17, 2019

Two weeks ago, I was inspired to share some of my recent poetry. I signed up as a speaker for my toastmaster group. I was looking forward to the meeting on that Friday. On Wednesday afternoon I noticed several missed calls on my phone. I called back the number. It was from a person in […]


If You Had One Day

by Shervin on November 3, 2019

Sometimes we feel that we are lost in the forest of life and we do not see the big picture or a way to clarity, There may be many things uncertain, we may not be present (too much mental chatter), be confused and not motivated to do anything. In such situations, it is important to […]



by Shervin on October 21, 2019

How do we self-sabotage? We know what the right thing to do is, but we do not do it. For example, we may know that certain food or behavior is not good for us and we need to avoid them. Or we may know certain activity like monitoring our thoughts or exercise is beneficial to […]


Agendas and Motivations

by Shervin on October 7, 2019

“Knowing yourself is the beginning of all wisdom.” – Aristotle How do we get to know ourselves? Emotions point us toward our needs and desires. We may go through feelings and analyzing our reactions to know ourselves better. I think there is another way to get to know ourselves. It is through inquiry and finding […]


It Was Not Your Fault!

by Shervin on September 22, 2019

I was being coached in a class about boundaries. I was reflecting that since childhood I did not like conflicts and I tried to avoid them when possible. I also reflected that I was very sensitive to my surrounding and I tried to take care of people’s need ahead of time. I also reflected that my […]


On becoming Your Best Friend

by Shervin on September 8, 2019

Will you commit to accept and support yourself no matter what you may experience? If your answer is yes, congratulations!  You are a great friend to yourself. If your answer is no or you hesitated a bit, congratulations! There is something to dig deeper if you choose to do so. Most of us give to […]


Making Sense of Difficult Emotions

by Shervin on August 25, 2019

Emotions sometimes confuse us. We may feel our emotions but we need to know that we are not the emotion. I sometimes get confused about my own emotions. I am happy that I can experience anger, grief, love and joy. I also can cry easily which is not typical of most men. Sometimes I get stuck […]


Feeling Lost

by Shervin on August 11, 2019

Last week I was late to my dance class due to a late meeting at work. As I was driving to my class, at a stop light, I tried to make a phone call. It made a wrong call and I quickly tried to hang up. I kept tapping on cancel button and nothing seemed […]


Worst Case Scenarios

by Shervin on July 28, 2019

I have created many worst-case scenarios in my mind and majority of them have never materialized. They ranged from simple daily concerns to career and financial security. We sometimes are ‘certain’ that disaster will happen, and as the result we will be embarrassed or will be rejected or will be considered a failure. If we have […]


Preserving Your Life Energy

by Shervin on July 14, 2019

We have a finite amount of life energy.  The more joyful focused energy we have, the more we can create and manifest. Also, the higher vibration of energy we have, the easier we can experience joy. Staying healthy mentally, emotionally and physically also require our life energy. Losing our energy is alike losing integrity of […]


Thief of Your Joy

by Shervin on June 30, 2019

What is the biggest obstacle to experiencing your joy? Think of past few days about situations when you were upset and lost your joy. What was the root cause of your loss of joy and peace? When people and life do not meet our expectations we fight that reality; we may feel entitled to experiencing […]


Worry, Hope and Faith

by Shervin on June 17, 2019

Worry, hope and faith. We have them all.  What are they and how are they related? What worry and hope have in common is future. Worry is about a gloomy future that we try to avoid and control. Hope is an expectation of good future that we desire to reach. Faith can be like an anchor […]


Check In Your Luggage

by Shervin on June 1, 2019

Have you traveled by a car while resting your heavy luggage on your lap? Have you gone hiking while carrying a heavy luggage? Have you gone to a dinner with a friend while taking all your books with you in a big backpack? Above scenarios do not sound fun and are stressful to your body. You […]


Lucky or Blessed?

by Shervin on May 20, 2019

We all have experienced kind and impact-full loving people in our lives. Strangers who show up out of nowhere, stay around for few minutes or years. Sometimes even family members fulfill that role. I had many people who have had played that important role in my life.  Family members such as my dear aunt and strangers […]


Lack of Trust

by Shervin on May 6, 2019

Imagine a toddler is being tossed up in the air by a parent. Typically, the toddler will laugh while being caught by the parent. Why is the toddler laughing? He/she is enjoying the experience while the toddler has complete trust in the parent. As we grow older, the Universe acts as our parent. It tosses […]


Letting Go

by Shervin on April 7, 2019

You have heard the phrase, “Let it go and become free”. You may ask, how can one let go of big hurts and disappointments? It is not easy to let go of big issues and yet is doable. It is like wanting to get in shape. You do not start with running in a big […]