Saying Yes To You!

by Shervin on November 17, 2019

Two weeks ago, I was inspired to share some of my recent poetry. I signed up as a speaker for my toastmaster group. I was looking forward to the meeting on that Friday.

On Wednesday afternoon I noticed several missed calls on my phone. I called back the number. It was from a person in my toastmaster. She asked me if I could forfeit my speaking position for two reasons:

       1- She has a speech about Halloween that was very long and required two time slots. 

       2. She did not want her toastmaster friend to worry about another speaker. 

Out of my past habit, I immediately said yes!

After hanging up the phone, I felt very sad about my decision. I was upset at myself and was also resentful. 

I realized I did not had to say yes.

I asked myself, why did I give my spot to someone else while I was excited about my speech?

I realized this was my old habit had kicked in and sabotaged what I wanted to do.  I realized I needed to be more aware of my old tendency.

You may sometimes say “Yes” to others instead of saying “Yes” to yourself. 

How do we get out of such situations?

– Do not commit right away.

– Ask yourself, “Am I saying yes because of inner fear of avoiding external conflict?”

– Focus on what you love to do, when you cannot decide.

I have realized the things I love to do brings me joy and tasks that I feel I have to do sometimes brings me resentment – if it stops me from doing what I love to do.

Being a “nice person” and at the same time being resentful about it is self-defeating.  It is more meaningful being nice to yourself and allowing your joy flow to others instead.

Something to ponder:

Are you committed to do what you love at expense of saying NO to others?

Copyright @2019 by Shervin Hojat

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If You Had One Day

by Shervin on November 3, 2019

Sometimes we feel that we are lost in the forest of life and we do not see the big picture or a way to clarity,

There may be many things uncertain, we may not be present (too much mental chatter), be confused and not motivated to do anything.

In such situations, it is important to renew our life perspective and remember what is really meaningful to us.

If for whatever reasons I am unable to be present (through meditation or gratitude), I ponder what would I do if you had one day to live?

This question brings to focus what and who are important to me (gets me out of my head and into my heart).

This answer to that question is more than quitting my job which is about what I do not want to do (go to work).

Such a question brings to surface:

  • What vibration do you want to hold today?
  • Who would you wish to call or visit?
  • Who do you like to tell you love and appreciate?

You will be surprised noticing that there are many meaningful things you can do without much motivation and confusion when you are in your heart space.

After all, there is no guarantee any of us will be around tomorrow.

This it is great way to fulfill our heartfelt wishes today and re-affirm what is really important to us.

Copyright @2019 by Shervin Hojat

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Self-sabotage

by Shervin on October 21, 2019

How do we self-sabotage?

We know what the right thing to do is, but we do not do it.

For example, we may know that certain food or behavior is not good for us and we need to avoid them. Or we may know certain activity like monitoring our thoughts or exercise is beneficial to us. We even say, “I know” I need to do this.

Why is it that sometimes we are stuck in the status quo?

  1. We get stuck in over analyzing the situation
    • We want to know all the reasons why we behave such a way.
    • We keep focusing on our regret why we are in this situation in the first place.
    • Here is the first step of self-sabotage.
  2. We do not take the first simple step
    • Our mind convince us that our step should be bigger or more meaningful and we buy into it.
    • Here is the second step of self-sabotage.
    • Note that a simple step always is hardest and also is the most rewarding.
  3. We set ourselves for failure by not doing anything constructive towards our goal.
  4. We beat ourselves up for being a failure
    • Here is the ultimate self-sabotage.

Allow me to give you an example of how we may do self-sabotage.

Let us assume you want to do lose 20 Lbs. to feel more fit and happier.

  • You know that you need to be active daily for 45 minutes. But you cannot find that time.
  • You may get upset (and stay upset) at yourself or obsess why you are so unfortunate and others seem to be so happy and fit.
  • This is start of self-sabotage.

How do we break the self-sabotage?

  • Re-iterate the reason why you want to lose weight.
    • Are you doing it for yourself? For others? Someone important to you?
    • Does the reason still excite and motivate you?
    • If not find a better reason or re-evaluate your goal or its method.
  • Start being active for even 3 minutes; show yourself that you are committed to your goal.
  • Celebrate your simple steps.
  • Focus on what feels like when you reach your goal.
  • Look at ways to improve the activity time longer.
  • Find a friend to support and encourage you toward your goal.
  • Always be kind and gentle toward yourself.

Copyright @2019 by Shervin Hojat

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Agendas and Motivations

by Shervin on October 7, 2019

“Knowing yourself is the beginning of all wisdom.” – Aristotle

How do we get to know ourselves?

Emotions point us toward our needs and desires. We may go through feelings and analyzing our reactions to know ourselves better.

I think there is another way to get to know ourselves.

It is through inquiry and finding out about our agendas and motivations.

No matter if we are aware of it or not, most of our actions are based on certain agendas.

This is not about finding faults rather get to know the real agendas and motivations for doing things.

For example, what happens if several times a day we ask ourselves questions?

–          What is my agenda for working so hard?

–          What is my agenda for being so giving?

–          What is my agenda for not having a clear boundary?

–          What is my agenda for not being fully honest?

–          What is my agenda for rejecting complements or help?

–          What is my agenda for not being kind enough to myself?

–          What is my agenda for being so critical or complaining?

–          What is my agenda for staying in a hurtful relationship?

I have found out such questions, may bring clarity toward what I want deeply.

Such clarity is like exposing a secret when it comes out it frees you of its burdens.

Maybe you may find out the agenda behind your actions is to be loved, to be validated, to make a difference, to be accepted, to feel secure, to survive or to love unconditionally.

There is no judgment here. You are already taking actions based on your hidden agendas and motivations.

Finding your agenda is a great start on acting with awareness.

Copyright @2019 by Shervin Hojat

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It Was Not Your Fault!

by Shervin on September 22, 2019

I was being coached in a class about boundaries.

I was reflecting that since childhood I did not like conflicts and I tried to avoid them when possible. I also reflected that I was very sensitive to my surrounding and I tried to take care of people’s need ahead of time.

I also reflected that my parents had conflicts all along and I always tried to create peace among them.

The teacher said two sentences that shocked me unexpectedly.  

She said, “It was not your fault that your parents had conflicts. You were not responsible for their happiness!”

Imagine that your parents argue and you hear your name in the discussions. What would a small child conclude?   “It is my fault and I am responsible to fix it”

Although mentally I could accept the teacher’s sentences. I realized that I emotionally believed otherwise until that time!

That day, I felt relief and sadness within me. A voice kept telling me: “It was not my fault!”. “I am not responsible to make people happy!”

I felt lost and sad like the time when I lost my job. At that time I kept asking myself, “who am I without a job?” This time I asked myself “who am I without being responsible for happiness of others?”

I can imagine as children we may have accepted certain beliefs about our surroundings or may have taken on responsibility for being physically, sexually or mentally abused by others. Some of us may blame ourselves by saying only if we had tried harder or something similar. This is a very heavy burden to carry for a small child.

Take a moment, and think about what you may have accepted as your responsibility as a small child and still carry it out as an adult without realizing it up till now.

Let this sentence sink in within you.

It was not your fault!

Copyright @2019 by Shervin Hojat

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On becoming Your Best Friend

by Shervin on September 8, 2019

Will you commit to accept and support yourself no matter what you may experience?

If your answer is yes, congratulations!  You are a great friend to yourself.

If your answer is no or you hesitated a bit, congratulations! There is something to dig deeper if you choose to do so.

Most of us give to others when they need help.

I bet you as a reader of this blog, if you see a friend in the parking lot with a panic attack, you will approach the person and try to comfort them without judging.

The question is why we cannot do the same thing for ourselves? Is it lack of self-love, or arrogance that we should be better than others or something else?

Also, have you ever thought of consequences of not accepting and supporting yourself?

Do you think such a person will feel safe and secure? How about having enough self-confidence?

I have a confession to make! This is what I have done in the past. I did not support myself.

I was not aware of this issue so clearly, but I kept asking myself why I react certain way and often look outside of myself for security, emotional support and encouragement. Over time it became very clear to me why.

For example, if I became angry; I judged myself about feeling angry rather than acknowledging the felling and telling myself I can see why I may feel that way; I also did not tell myself no matter what I am going through I will support the part of me that is upset. It is like talking to your good friend who is upset.

I have started being a better friend to myself. I have noticed a big difference in how I react and feel toward outside events now; I am more calm and confident. I know no matter what happens Shervin has my back.

Are you willing to be your own cheerleader and friend no matter what your situation is?

Are you willing to be committed to yourself without any agenda or conditions?

Are you willing to be your own best friend?

Copyright @2019 by Shervin Hojat

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Making Sense of Difficult Emotions

by Shervin on August 25, 2019

Emotions sometimes confuse us. We may feel our emotions but we need to know that we are not the emotion.

I sometimes get confused about my own emotions.

I am happy that I can experience anger, grief, love and joy. I also can cry easily which is not typical of most men.

Sometimes I get stuck in sadness, resentment and disappointment. I may spend lots of time trying to analyze why I feel that way and judging the emotion at the same time.

Experiencing emotion is part of the path but is not the destination. We are supposed to feel and acknowledge our emotions and let them go.

The question is when is it enough to feel sad or angry and stop analyzing and rehashing our story?

If the same old thoughts and beliefs keep bringing us down, when do we say enough is enough?

My teacher, keeps reminding me that our natural state is joy. If we are sad or angry, it is unnatural and only needs to be experienced temporarily.

This is a bit contradictory to my past belief and observations. In the past, my usual emotional state has not been joy. When I accomplished something I allowed myself to be joyful!

When I am in regret of past or worry about future, I cannot be in a state of joy.

We all basically operate from two overlapping modes: our soul and ego mind.

When we are in our heart we are connected to our soul. When we are in our head we are most likely connected to our ego.

Our emotions are like a map pointing us to what two versions of identities we are operating on.

Any feeling that has lower vibration is not from our soul. It is typically from our ego, beliefs and up-bringing.

Feeling of unconditional love, gratitude, kindness, empathy, peace and harmony is from our soul. 

The question is how do we connect to more of natural joy within us?

The question is answered by asking what obstacles to experiencing your joy are.

These obstacles are what you control can and change.

I can share with you some of my obstacles in experiencing more joy:

  • Expectations (I am entitled to …)
  • Beliefs of how life should be
  • My stories of past hurts
  • Habits that lowers my vibrations (lack of self-care)
  • Identifying with my ego (I have done this great work  … therefore …)
  • Codependency (if so and so are not happy I cannot be happy)

Can you list some of your obstacles to experiencing joy within?

Copyright @2019 by Shervin Hojat

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Feeling Lost

by Shervin on August 11, 2019

Last week I was late to my dance class due to a late meeting at work. As I was driving to my class, at a stop light, I tried to make a phone call. It made a wrong call and I quickly tried to hang up. I kept tapping on cancel button and nothing seemed to work!

Then all of sudden my phone switched to a different mode. It would not take in my passcode and keep repeating loud what I was typing in.

 I felt panic in my body. I felt lost!

How can I go anywhere without GPS? How can I get hold of anyone? 

I decided not to go dance. I was dealing with an emergency!!! I had to remedy this situation first. I had to find my way to an Apple store to get help. How can I go to store without my phone telling me where to go?

I drove toward direction of mall that had an Apple store. After getting lost for a while and with lots of help I found the store. I ran into store and told the technician that I really need his help!

My phone was switched to visually impaired mode, which literally made me feel lost and disoriented. It was fixed by the technician in few seconds.

I was really shocked at my dependency on something that ten years ago I could function without. 

I realized that I have stopped using my memory and stopped paying attention to how I go to places. I was also surprised on my reaction of feeling lost when I realized I am disconnected from the internet. I realized that I had over delegated too many responsibilities to my phone.

How would you feel if you do not receive phone calls, texts, emails or any news for a day?

Do you feel anxious? Why?

What aspect of your life have you over-delegated and are overly dependent on other things?

Copyright @2019 by Shervin Hojat

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Worst Case Scenarios

by Shervin on July 28, 2019

I have created many worst-case scenarios in my mind and majority of them have never materialized. They ranged from simple daily concerns to career and financial security.

We sometimes are ‘certain’ that disaster will happen, and as the result we will be embarrassed or will be rejected or will be considered a failure. If we have a strong mind and focus on such events out of fear, it may actually happen!

Certain amount of fear is good to motivate us to act. But obsession with being right about our fears and suffering constantly as a result is not beneficial to our well-being.

Over time, I have learned that my mind plays a fear game on me, if unchecked. It is like watching a horror movie, we expect the scariest scenes as part of movie’s entertainment.

I used to worry about downsizing at work even if the odds was 1 in 500. I remember being very concerned about it and wasting lots of energy on all possibilities prior to announcement.  Now when such concerns show up, I ask myself what vibration I like to experience now? And what action is in my highest interest today?

Look at your past worst-case fears:

–       How did you react to them?

–       Did they materialize?

–       Do react differently to such issues now? Why? 

Copyright @2019 by Shervin Hojat

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Preserving Your Life Energy

by Shervin on July 14, 2019

We have a finite amount of life energy.  The more joyful focused energy we have, the more we can create and manifest. Also, the higher vibration of energy we have, the easier we can experience joy.

Staying healthy mentally, emotionally and physically also require our life energy.

Losing our energy is alike losing integrity of our being. We cannot be manifest and function with joy when we have a low life energy.

Having no clear boundary and attachments are the biggest sources of energy loss.

Let us look at some examples that drain our life energy:

  • Staying in lower vibration energies such as fear, anger, hate, sorrow, regret, Jealousy and control.
  • Offering help when is not asked. We get upset when our help is rejected, or not appreciated.  Due to lack of boundary and our attachment to a specific response we lose our life energy.
  • Feeling sadness and grief of others and holding on those feelings as ours. This is different that feeling empathy and being lovingly unattached.
  • Wishing for an outcome. We plant the seed of that desire. But we attach our fears and doubts to that desire and outcome. This saps our energy and stops the seed from growing.

Imagine your energy is like a large battery with many wires tapped out from it. Each wire can be worry, doubt, control, anger, sadness or expectation. We observe main output of the battery and conclude that it does not produce (create) much. It does not – because they are so many wires drain all its energy.

Some questions to ponder:

Are you lovingly unattached most of the time?

What forms of attachments drain your energy?

How often do you experience joy during the day?

Copyright @2019 by Shervin Hojat

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Thief of Your Joy

by Shervin on June 30, 2019

What is the biggest obstacle to experiencing your joy?

Think of past few days about situations when you were upset and lost your joy.

What was the root cause of your loss of joy and peace?

When people and life do not meet our expectations we fight that reality; we may feel entitled to experiencing our expectations; we feel angry; we feel disappointed; we give away our joy as the result.

In my experience, the thief of our joy is our reaction when our expectations are not met. 

Let us look at some simple examples that we may give away our joy:

–  Your children did not call you when expected. 

– You were late to work due to crazy traffic. 

– Plans with your friends changed in the last minute. 

– You do not have enough money saved. 

– Your spouse did not clean up after himself or herself.

– The person on the phone was rude to you.

– You are spiritual and still get grumpy. 

– You are nice to people and they are not nice to you in response.

– People around you do not smile enough.

There is nothing wrong with having some expectations. For example, we expect a level of customer service and competence.

Sometimes our expectations are not spelled out or agreed upon or not practical all the time. How we react when our expectations are not met is the key issue.

Do you give your joy away when your expectations of others are not met or are you calm and respond from position of humility, acceptance, love and freedom?

Some questions to ponder on:

  • What expectations do you have from others/yourself that gives away your joy if not met?
  • Do you think people should behave according to your expectations? Why?
  • Why do you have any expectations at all?

Copyright @2019 by Shervin Hojat

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Worry, Hope and Faith

by Shervin on June 17, 2019

Worry, hope and faith. We have them all. 

What are they and how are they related?

What worry and hope have in common is future. Worry is about a gloomy future that we try to avoid and control. Hope is an expectation of good future that we desire to reach.

Faith can be like an anchor that can keep us satisfied and steadfast in the present, no matter what circumstance we are dealing with.

Having a choice between worry and hope we need to choose hope. Hope brings us energy and optimism that we need to take action.

Faith is based on strong belief. Some beliefs are disabling.  Some beliefs can gives us strength in uncertain times.

Consider the belief, “No matter what is happening I will be OK”. This is a very valuable belief when we are dealing with fearful and unknown situations in life. With such a faith, we are calmer and can think clearly. Difficult situation will have less of impact on us because we believe we are/will be OK.

Imagine, being strong and unshaken in a world with so much uncertainty and challenges. Wouldn’t that living be more enjoyable and productive?

Take a look at your worries, hopes and beliefs. Your hopes and worries are related to quality of your belief.

Is there something about your belief that you can upgrade to experience more freedom and joy?

Copyright @2019 by Shervin Hojat

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Check In Your Luggage

by Shervin on June 1, 2019

Have you traveled by a car while resting your heavy luggage on your lap?

Have you gone hiking while carrying a heavy luggage?

Have you gone to a dinner with a friend while taking all your books with you in a big backpack?

Above scenarios do not sound fun and are stressful to your body.

You may laugh and say that most people do not do what I am mentioning.

I agree! It is easy to become aware of physical heavy load and not carry it with us everywhere.  

There are other loads that we carry around with us without being aware of them. They are emotional and psychological loads.

I can tell by my own experience; those loads are harder on my body than load of heavy books in a luggage!

What makes emotional and psychological load heavy?

Fear, regret, resentment, and judgement create a heavy load.

Most of us maybe carrying those heavy loads and are used to them.

You may ask, how do I know if I am carrying the load?

It is simple and requires paying attention.

Is your life often joyful without any reason?

Do you feel relaxed during day or waiting for the other shoe to drop?

Do you worry a lot?

Do you care more about happiness of others than your own?

Do you have chronic pain in your body?

Do you do things out of obligation (with resentment that may not be aware of) or try to do them with joy?

Pay attention to your breathing and body. If you feel tense you are carrying luggage and a load!!!

Does this luggage and load really belong to you? Does it serve you by owing and carrying it?

Do yourself a big favor.

 Leave the luggage behind as if you check in at an airport. It is free to check them in!

Become free like a bird and enjoy yourself for few hours or minutes. You will appreciate the difference.

After-all, the luggage may not be your luggage and you may decide not to re-claim it.

Or you decide you like to move around freely and you let go of content of those luggage.

Copyright @2019 by Shervin Hojat

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Lucky or Blessed?

by Shervin on May 20, 2019

We all have experienced kind and impact-full loving people in our lives.

Strangers who show up out of nowhere, stay around for few minutes or years. Sometimes even family members fulfill that role.

I had many people who have had played that important role in my life.  Family members such as my dear aunt and strangers played roles of teachers and friends.

You may think you were lucky when met that special person. Now you may not feel lucky, especially if that person no longer is around. After all, how many times can you become lucky in your lifetime?

Many of us are in lack mentality. We try to hold on the good things and avoid the unpleasant. We may be believing that there are only limited good things going around or we do not deserve unlimited blessings.

Look at the events in your life. How many times have you been lucky? How many times unsettling events turn out positively?

Were all of those events pure luck? Or something else?

If we accept concept of pure luck, then loosing people that we appreciate, the job we love, all cause us pain and suffering.

 If we focus on source of our blessings, then life transitions are much less traumatic and painful and we always feel connected and blessed.

Over times, I have come to understanding that the force behind the scene brings events, people to me for my own good. This force whose by-product are many blessings is felt as joy and appreciation in my heart.

I may lose a job that I loved which was supporting me for many years. Another job will show up out of nowhere in a timely manner. I may not physically be with my mother right now, but other people show up from nowhere, provide motherly love and support toward me, when I need it.

I have learned to be appreciative of people and events. I also I know it is important not to be attached to the job or the people. They all may disappear; but there is only one constant.

I have realized what stays constant is the support and blessings that I continuously receive from the Universe (even though at times I may be blinded to it).

 Looking back, the support has been constant. It does not mean I did not feel pain or suffered due to my own resistance, beliefs or mindset. I have received the essentials needed for my survival, spiritual and personal growth up till now.

How many times have you been lucky? How many times unsettling events turn out positively?

Were all of those events pure luck? Or something else?

Copyright @2019 by Shervin Hojat

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Lack of Trust

by Shervin on May 6, 2019

Imagine a toddler is being tossed up in the air by a parent. Typically, the toddler will laugh while being caught by the parent.

Why is the toddler laughing?

He/she is enjoying the experience while the toddler has complete trust in the parent.

As we grow older, the Universe acts as our parent. It tosses up in the air and tests our trust.

Our reactions depends on how much trust and faith we have in the Universe.

If we trust that we are taken care of, we may smile or at least are not be frightened of unknown (how safely and where we may land).

Having faith and trust in the Universe does not mean we abdicate our share of responsibilities. We do our best with focus and joy. We trust that the best outcome will happen and it will be in our best interest for our spiritual growth.

How do we build more trust in the Universe?

By welcoming the unknown with more joy and open heart.

Look at aspects of your life that you may be controlling or worried excessively. Most likely, at some level it is due to lack of trust.

Copyright @2019 by Shervin Hojat

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Personal Resurrection

by Shervin on April 22, 2019

I was in a group meditation couple of days ago. People were discussing meaning of Easter at a personal level.

When I was younger, I thought we just die once. Overt time, I have realized that is not true!

Many times, I have thought that I was dying (emotionally and physically) due to some challenges I had faced. When beliefs about our identity is challenged, we may feel that we are dying mainly by avoiding and judging certain unwanted feelings (fear, disappointment, shame, guilt). 

Some major sources of triggers of unwanted feelings are due to loss of job, breakup off of friendships, financial hardship, forced retirement, lack of mobility, loss of loved ones, etc. 

It is difficult to witness death of our ego and image of who we are (or should be). We have invested decades in building it up.  We may think it is impossible to survive death of our ego and who we think we are- that is very frightening at first. 

Most of us manage through our life challenges. Over our life time, we die to some aspects of ourselves.  We then have our own personal resurrection and miracle we can celebrate and cherish. We may become more alive as the result.

To me, one metaphor of Easter is dying to our fears, our limiting beliefs, and our ego and miraculously resurrecting to our new and truer Self. 

Copyright @2019 by Shervin Hojat

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Letting Go

by Shervin on April 7, 2019

You have heard the phrase, “Let it go and become free”.

You may ask, how can one let go of big hurts and disappointments?

It is not easy to let go of big issues and yet is doable.

It is like wanting to get in shape.

You do not start with running in a big marathon to get in shape. You start with small steps, like walking or biking every day first.

In letting go, you also start small. You make letting go of small things a practice and a habit.

 As your habit is stabilized and you realize value of letting go (even small things), you become your own advocate for letting go of big things that seem impossible to release.

What are some small steps you can take in letting go of?

  • Let go of anger about driver who cuts you off on the road. Focus on what is going well on the road instead.
  • Let go of disappointment about your mistakes and shortcomings. Focus on what things you have done right and not acknowledged.
  • Let go of memory of hard day at work. Take a warm shower, or walk in nature.

Letting go is similar to building muscle and strength.

Letting go requires practice and patience.

Letting go requires having compassion for yourself and others.

Letting go requires valuing your peace more than fighting to be right to satisfy your ego. 

What a small issue can you let go of now?

Copyright @2019 by Shervin Hojat

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Learning from Blossoms

by Shervin on March 23, 2019

Spring is around the corner. You already may have noticed blossoms of fruit trees if you are living in a warmer climate. Some of the blossoms are aromatic and colorful.

These blossoms will disappear shortly.  All the beautiful petals will fall-off and the blossoms start turning into fruits.  Fruits bring us similar joy as the blossoms did.

This is part of process of nature.

Imagine if the blossoms resisted losing their petals and their transformation. After all, they are beautiful, and people enjoy watching and smelling them. If they do not lose their petals, there would not be any fruits and fruit trees would not deliver what they were destined for. 

Like blossoms, we may have many beautiful things that we do not desire to let go of. Our predictable relationships, our youth, our comfortable jobs, our aging parents, our pets and friends.  This is not possible to hold on to.  Like the fruit tree blossom, we are on a path of destiny that requires letting go with a graceful transition.

Blossoms let go of their petals with ease and transform with beauty and grace.

We are also required to appreciate the beautiful (and not so beautiful) experiences that we have had and let them go when required.  Every stage of letting go, brings us depth of feelings, new perspectives, maturity and growth.

What beautiful experiences are you holding on to that requires letting go to enhance your growth?

What bitter experiences are you holding on to that requires letting go to enhance your growth?

Copyright @2019 by Shervin Hojat

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Appreciation

by Shervin on March 9, 2019

How can we feel more satisfied and abundant?

The general trend in most societies is that we need to have more things.

If that is the case, then why so many wealthy people are not happy and do not feel satisfied?

What brings us satisfaction and feeling of abundance is inner appreciation not necessarily what we buy.

How is that possible?

You do not need to own the oceans to appreciate the beauty of sunset on water.

You do not need to own a beach front property to enjoy walking on the beach.

You do not need to own a zoo to appreciate the birds.

You do not need to own jungles to appreciate the trees and tree blossoms.

You do not need to own a dog to love animals.

You do not need to have advanced degree to have empathy and understanding.

You however need the right mindset and open heart to appreciate your life.

Appreciation arises from our attitude and belief about life.

Appreciation arises from celebrating to be alive, despite all the challenges we may be facing.

Appreciation arises from being free of past or future and enjoying what is in front of us.

Appreciation arises when we open ourselves to connect with the Universe without any conditions or expectations.

What do you appreciate that gives you a deep satisfaction?

Copyright @2019 by Shervin Hojat

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Invisible Walls

by Shervin on February 23, 2019

We erect invisible walls defining who we are and how we should function within those walls.

How do we recognize such walls?

Those walls can be felt and sensed.

As we get close to those walls in boundaries of our lives, at first, we have feeling of contraction and fear.

Observe your feelings when you feel fear and are very uncomfortable in an aspects of your life. You are at the edge of such wall.

The wall is our safe identity and comfort even though it confines us.

In some areas of our lives, the wall may be several yards away and we may feel more sense of freedom, expansion and joy.

Through awareness, hard work, humility, non-attachment and divine intervention we push these walls farther away.

We may measure our success in life in how large of an area we are walled in compared to others.

We are still walled in.

What would our lives be like if those walls did not have any impact on behavior at all?

Copyright @2019 by Shervin Hojat

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