The Invisible

by Shervin on March 30, 2020

The invisible enemy or friend?

The enemy who is everywhere and nowhere.

The enemy who is not detected by your normal senses.

The enemy who does not discriminate based on language or color or wealth.

The enemy who can bring physical death and pain.

The enemy who physically separates you from friends and family.

The enemy who disrupts what is familiar, comfortable and secure.

The enemy who honors no boundaries.

The enemy who is cunning and adaptable.

The enemy who can bring the worst in you.

The enemy who relies on your worry and fear to weaken your defenses.

The invisible enemy or friend?

The friend who reminds you to be humble.

The friend who reminds you to take responsibility for your boundary.

The friend who reminds you that your actions and thoughts matter.

The friend who reminds you not to take any moment for granted.

The friend who invites you to reflect on what is dearly important to you.

The friend who invites you to overcome the ultimate obstacle- your deepest fears.

The friend who invites you to go within and become your own friend.

The friend who invites you to take more responsibility for self.

The friend who makes your bonds with friends and family stronger.

The friend who makes invisible – visible.

The friend who invites you to be more resilient and creative.

The friend who brings the best in you.

The friend who helps you realize that we are in it together.

The friend who is a catalyst for more growth, faith, courage and love.

The invisible who you can love and hate at the same time!

Copyright @2020 by Shervin Hojat

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Dealing With Our New Reality

by Shervin on March 23, 2020

It is like a bad movie or perhaps a dream that we want to wake up from. Is it real?

Things has changed so quickly.  It is hard to believe.

We are pushed to take our life situation moment to moment to maintain our peace and sanity.

It is scary, if you are not used to uncertainty.  There are so many changes in our work, financial condition, living condition, sense of security and our interactions with others.

Many things that we took for granted have disappeared. Yet still are many things that we need to be grateful for.

I can imagine if I had experienced this situation 10 or 20 years ago I would have had a much harder reaction (I have observed, over the years, how my thoughts about difficult events have been inaccurate).

Many of us have an active imagination and assume the worst case. We also, identify with our job or finances which, with the current situation, may appear as treat to our identity and self-worth.

There are silver linings at the end of the situation.

I imagine that we will have more joy in doing previously mundane things such as having a coffee with a friend, hugging a friend, going to work, going to a restaurant, dancing or shopping at stores with full supply.

The question is what to do day to day?

  • Take care  of yourself physically, emotionally and spiritually
  • Stay calm and do your best every day
  • Do not over think things;  Being fearful weakens your  immune system and takes your joy away
  • Focus on uplifting tasks such as journaling, reading, meditation, exercise or dance
  • Set a routine; many things has changed and a little discipline brings structure to your life
  • Stay connected with friends and family
  • Help others the best way you can;  It can be helping with grocery or listening to or inspiring someone
  • It is a great opportunity to work on something you love to accomplish. Perhaps it is the book you did not have time for or an exciting project at home
  • Find reasons to smile and focus on what you are grateful for (can you imagine a life with no internet, water or electricity?)
  • Think about a year from now; what inspiring story would you want to share with others?

Copyright @2020 by Shervin Hojat

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Game of Life

by Shervin on March 8, 2020

Living is about experiencing life events with courage and humility.

One can be ‘alive’ and still not be living.

What makes us alive is breaking the walls of fear and observing experience of who we are and who we are not. It is a game!

Would you want to have a friend/mentor that has never failed and has never tried anything meaningful to himself/herself?

Or would you want to have a friend/mentor who has failed, experienced hurt and know themselves better.

Rumi says,” What hurts you, blesses you. Darkness is your candle.”

Why hurting can be a blessing?  Why darkness can be a candle?

What is worthwhile on the other side that is worth going through darkness and hurt?

  • In life we all experience hurt and sometimes, to avoid temporary hurt, we make choices that are not to our highest good.
  • Darkness forces us to drop limited images of who we think we are and to see and to experience our true essence.

We all will face challenges and hurt as well as joy in life. This is part of the game of life which come in a package.

During this game we need to keep asking ourselves:

  • Who am I?
  • What is my highest good?
  • How can my hurts be blessings?
  • Am I playing the game with courage and or curiosity or am I playing it safe?

Copyright @2020 by Shervin Hojat

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Life Purpose

by Shervin on February 24, 2020

What is my life purpose?

This is a question that sooner or later comes up and we like to have a heartfelt answer for it.

“I am getting older and still do not know what I want and what purpose I have.”

“What used to make me happy, no longer does. Why am I here?”

Does it sound familiar?

There is an unspoken agreements among many people, to live your life purpose, you need to be “successful” which is defined by our society, media and our family.

Those outside definitions of success at the end is not fulfilling, if is not defined from within.

I have thought about this subject often and that definition has changed over years.

For me the ultimate success is

  • Knowing myself
  • Accepting myself (loving myself comes later)
  • Being myself
  • Appreciating what is in my life

Can you imagine buying a tool, without knowing anything about it and trying to use it to fulfill its purpose?

Wouldn’t be much easier, to learn about it, accept its functionality, and then best utilize it?

Most people have small/inaccurate view of who they are and that limits living their purpose.

I believe ultimate life purpose is to love and allow to experience love.

We all take a slightly different path to reach that purpose, due to different life experiences and beliefs.

Does living life purpose take effort?  

No. It is like asking if receiving sun rays takes any efforts.

Does reaching to point to live life purpose (removing obstacles) requires effort and sacrifice?

Yes. It is similar to effort required to walking outside a building to receive the sun rays.  

Some obstacles to living our life purpose are: not knowing who we are, beliefs, lack of humility, expectation and judgement.

Some questions to ponder:

What were some of the most joyful moments in your life? What contributed to that experience? How did you contribute to it?

Copyright @2020 by Shervin Hojat

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Expectations and Happiness

by Shervin on February 9, 2020

What kind of expectations do you have?

Extent of our expectations determine how happy we are.

Look at the couple of few items that made you upset and kept you upset.

Were there related to some forms of expectations from others?

Why do we have expectations from others?

  • We like to be treated like we treat others.
  • We have sacrificed and expect a reward.
  • Certainty makes us feel secure and calm.
  • We have an image of how things should be.

Why expectation from others may disappoint you?

  • They may have no clue what you expect from them!
  • They may be deeply involved in their own issues.
  • They may not be as sensitive as you are.
  • They may not agree with your point of view or priority, at this moment.

I believe the expectations and disappointments toward our parents (first people we dealt with), carries its wounds in adult life.

We may still be sensitive toward certain issues that has disappointed us as a child.

It is good to know ourselves by knowing what things we are sensitive and reactive to. There is a story behind any deep reaction.

This does not mean to lower our expectations or do not do things with excellence. It means being aware of our reactions and communicate effectively if needed.

In business, expectations are more understood and agreed upon. But, at other areas of life may not be as clear or fully discussed.

In my experience, the less expectation, the more calmness and potential for a pleasant surprise.

What expectations do you have from friends or family that you have never verbalized?

What expectation (action or lack of) causes you a sudden reaction?

Copyright @2020 by Shervin Hojat

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Do We Value Truth?

by Shervin on January 30, 2020

At what point do we appreciate truth?

I believe that most people support the truth mostly if it does not harm them.

Will a lawyer seek truth at expense of his client’s freedom? 

Will a political party change its position because of discovering the truth? 

Will people at work speak the truth when they perceive their job may be on the line? 

One can understand in situations one hiding the truth to protect self or others from physical harm. What is the justification for hiding or denying the truth from ourselves?

It is said that truth sets you free; yes, only if you let go of ego and let go of defending your past positions.

Many people have invested many years in half-truths and inaccurate ideas; it takes honesty and courage to admit one has made a mistake.

Truth does not have value judgment; it just is. We try to judge it instead of accepting it.

If I do not trust life – that is not good or bad – It just is at this moment;

If I am not happy with my situation – that is not good or bad – It just is at this moment.

When you are hungry you say the truth at that moment about your hunger and there is no judgement.

Why we get offended when someone criticize us when he/she tells the truth?

Why we do not tell the truth when we feel sad, lonely, angry or scared? 

Is fear of judgement from others (position of ego) more important than truth? Isn’t that like being in a small prison cell?

What truths do you deny or judge? Why?

Copyright @2020 by Shervin Hojat

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Unmet Needs

by Shervin on January 13, 2020

We know nutritious food, exercise, meditation, laughter are all good for us. We also know certain behaviors are not good for us.

When we mention to our friends or family, “You know this is good for you, why you do not do it?”, We hear, “I know!”.

Why we do not do things that benefits us? And do things that are destructive?

One reason, perhaps is that we have unmet needs.

There are some universal needs such as feeling safe, connected, acknowledged, appreciated, heard, valued and loved.

We may not even know what those unmet needs are, but we feel the side effect in our choices.

We may have a need to feel heard. That need may be more important than being civil, not angry or being self-loving.

At subconscious level, we may do things that is not good for us – believing that will help us get what we need.

When someone says, I know this is good for me but I am not doing it. It really means I have unmet needs that are more important to me.

What are things that you know are good for you, you like to do and do not do?

Can you identify one unmet need?

In my experience, when I articulate my unmet needs, there is always an emotional reaction in my body.

Copyright @2020 by Shervin Hojat

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Lessons Of The Year

by Shervin on December 31, 2019

I like to share with you some reflections on 2019.

I was humbled to be wrong so many times during the year. Many of my projections, which logically should have happened, did not happen!

Those issues were all important and related to my sense of well-being and security.

At times I felt scared, worried, frustrated. I pulled myself out of those situations (seemingly like life and death) and reached some sense of peace.

Looking back, these were the common thing that helped me greatly to reduce my suffering:

  • I dropped my desire to have an immediate result; A month or a week is a long time to worry about it today.
  • I focused I what I could do the best today.
  • I accepted probable worst case scenarios, but did not feed them with fear.
  • I kept reminding myself, everything will be OK; I started every day as a new day.
  • I asked for help and support from friends with high vibration.

What surprised me was that I had support and help which I did not anticipate.

I spend lots of energy on things that did not happen.  What I have learned in the process can be used for next year to have more presence of mind and peace.

My take away from last year is:

  • Be loving to yourself and others
  • Do your best
  • Stop worrying; is OK not to know everything
  • Let go of attachment to a fixed way to reach your goal
  • Trust the process
  • Ask for help

I wish you a prosperous and joyful year ahead.

Copyright @2019 by Shervin Hojat

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Doing the Right Thing for The Wrong Reason

by Shervin on December 15, 2019

Our reasons in doing things matters a lot. Finding out about our real motives is a great way to know ourselves and make necessary changes if we chose so.

Let us look at some reasons for doing something right with two different motives.

–  Reason for helping people

   1- Love to help others

    2- Shows that I have value or want people to like me

–  Reason for Getting married

   1- Share joy together

   2- Feel Lonely

– Reason for having children

   1- Love children

   2- Somebody to take care of me at old age

–  Reason for buying a new home

   1- My dream house

   2- Need to keep up with my siblings

–  Reason for getting into politics

   1- Help others

    2- Cushy job to get wealthy and powerful

-Reason for worshiping God

1-Feel him/her in my heart

2-Fear of punishment

All the above actions are considered right. But its spiritual and psychological quality depends on their reasoning and motives. Unhealthy motives like fear, greed and lack take our joy and inner peace away and leave us empty.

What is one right thing which you do that you think it requires to have a different motivation?

Copyright @2019 by Shervin Hojat

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Altering Your Mood

by Shervin on December 2, 2019

You have heard the statement that you create your own reality and potential happiness. Is it true?

I agree with the above statement based on my own experiences where changing one thought can change my mood.

There may be events that we may not have control of or at surface is not our own creation. But how we think about it, has direct impact on us.

Imagine worry and fear about finances that you may not have enough income. 

How do you feel as a result of that thought? I would feel worried, scared and agitated.

Imagine now if you can change the thought and belief that your finances in the future will be taken care of and you will figure it out.

How would you feel as the result of that thought? I would feel relaxed, calm and energetic.

We can list many other similar thoughts that can bring us misery or joy.

It may sound optimistic to think about positive side of issues. For many people, including myself, being calm and relaxed provides better opportunity to solve issues. 

I know there are people who are constantly worried and are on guard. I have not seen much calmness and presence in them. They usually ends up moving from one drama to another with no joy.

Our situation in life, is a hybrid of factors. Some factors may seem we had no control over its creation.  Some factors we have control over – our beliefs and reactions which determines quality of our living experience.

What are top stress causing thoughts for you?

How would you like to change your mood through your thoughts?

Copyright @2019 by Shervin Hojat

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Saying Yes To You!

by Shervin on November 17, 2019

Two weeks ago, I was inspired to share some of my recent poetry. I signed up as a speaker for my toastmaster group. I was looking forward to the meeting on that Friday.

On Wednesday afternoon I noticed several missed calls on my phone. I called back the number. It was from a person in my toastmaster. She asked me if I could forfeit my speaking position for two reasons:

       1- She has a speech about Halloween that was very long and required two time slots. 

       2. She did not want her toastmaster friend to worry about another speaker. 

Out of my past habit, I immediately said yes!

After hanging up the phone, I felt very sad about my decision. I was upset at myself and was also resentful. 

I realized I did not had to say yes.

I asked myself, why did I give my spot to someone else while I was excited about my speech?

I realized this was my old habit had kicked in and sabotaged what I wanted to do.  I realized I needed to be more aware of my old tendency.

You may sometimes say “Yes” to others instead of saying “Yes” to yourself. 

How do we get out of such situations?

– Do not commit right away.

– Ask yourself, “Am I saying yes because of inner fear of avoiding external conflict?”

– Focus on what you love to do, when you cannot decide.

I have realized the things I love to do brings me joy and tasks that I feel I have to do sometimes brings me resentment – if it stops me from doing what I love to do.

Being a “nice person” and at the same time being resentful about it is self-defeating.  It is more meaningful being nice to yourself and allowing your joy flow to others instead.

Something to ponder:

Are you committed to do what you love at expense of saying NO to others?

Copyright @2019 by Shervin Hojat

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If You Had One Day

by Shervin on November 3, 2019

Sometimes we feel that we are lost in the forest of life and we do not see the big picture or a way to clarity,

There may be many things uncertain, we may not be present (too much mental chatter), be confused and not motivated to do anything.

In such situations, it is important to renew our life perspective and remember what is really meaningful to us.

If for whatever reasons I am unable to be present (through meditation or gratitude), I ponder what would I do if you had one day to live?

This question brings to focus what and who are important to me (gets me out of my head and into my heart).

This answer to that question is more than quitting my job which is about what I do not want to do (go to work).

Such a question brings to surface:

  • What vibration do you want to hold today?
  • Who would you wish to call or visit?
  • Who do you like to tell you love and appreciate?

You will be surprised noticing that there are many meaningful things you can do without much motivation and confusion when you are in your heart space.

After all, there is no guarantee any of us will be around tomorrow.

This it is great way to fulfill our heartfelt wishes today and re-affirm what is really important to us.

Copyright @2019 by Shervin Hojat

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Self-sabotage

by Shervin on October 21, 2019

How do we self-sabotage?

We know what the right thing to do is, but we do not do it.

For example, we may know that certain food or behavior is not good for us and we need to avoid them. Or we may know certain activity like monitoring our thoughts or exercise is beneficial to us. We even say, “I know” I need to do this.

Why is it that sometimes we are stuck in the status quo?

  1. We get stuck in over analyzing the situation
    • We want to know all the reasons why we behave such a way.
    • We keep focusing on our regret why we are in this situation in the first place.
    • Here is the first step of self-sabotage.
  2. We do not take the first simple step
    • Our mind convince us that our step should be bigger or more meaningful and we buy into it.
    • Here is the second step of self-sabotage.
    • Note that a simple step always is hardest and also is the most rewarding.
  3. We set ourselves for failure by not doing anything constructive towards our goal.
  4. We beat ourselves up for being a failure
    • Here is the ultimate self-sabotage.

Allow me to give you an example of how we may do self-sabotage.

Let us assume you want to do lose 20 Lbs. to feel more fit and happier.

  • You know that you need to be active daily for 45 minutes. But you cannot find that time.
  • You may get upset (and stay upset) at yourself or obsess why you are so unfortunate and others seem to be so happy and fit.
  • This is start of self-sabotage.

How do we break the self-sabotage?

  • Re-iterate the reason why you want to lose weight.
    • Are you doing it for yourself? For others? Someone important to you?
    • Does the reason still excite and motivate you?
    • If not find a better reason or re-evaluate your goal or its method.
  • Start being active for even 3 minutes; show yourself that you are committed to your goal.
  • Celebrate your simple steps.
  • Focus on what feels like when you reach your goal.
  • Look at ways to improve the activity time longer.
  • Find a friend to support and encourage you toward your goal.
  • Always be kind and gentle toward yourself.

Copyright @2019 by Shervin Hojat

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Agendas and Motivations

by Shervin on October 7, 2019

“Knowing yourself is the beginning of all wisdom.” – Aristotle

How do we get to know ourselves?

Emotions point us toward our needs and desires. We may go through feelings and analyzing our reactions to know ourselves better.

I think there is another way to get to know ourselves.

It is through inquiry and finding out about our agendas and motivations.

No matter if we are aware of it or not, most of our actions are based on certain agendas.

This is not about finding faults rather get to know the real agendas and motivations for doing things.

For example, what happens if several times a day we ask ourselves questions?

–          What is my agenda for working so hard?

–          What is my agenda for being so giving?

–          What is my agenda for not having a clear boundary?

–          What is my agenda for not being fully honest?

–          What is my agenda for rejecting complements or help?

–          What is my agenda for not being kind enough to myself?

–          What is my agenda for being so critical or complaining?

–          What is my agenda for staying in a hurtful relationship?

I have found out such questions, may bring clarity toward what I want deeply.

Such clarity is like exposing a secret when it comes out it frees you of its burdens.

Maybe you may find out the agenda behind your actions is to be loved, to be validated, to make a difference, to be accepted, to feel secure, to survive or to love unconditionally.

There is no judgment here. You are already taking actions based on your hidden agendas and motivations.

Finding your agenda is a great start on acting with awareness.

Copyright @2019 by Shervin Hojat

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It Was Not Your Fault!

by Shervin on September 22, 2019

I was being coached in a class about boundaries.

I was reflecting that since childhood I did not like conflicts and I tried to avoid them when possible. I also reflected that I was very sensitive to my surrounding and I tried to take care of people’s need ahead of time.

I also reflected that my parents had conflicts all along and I always tried to create peace among them.

The teacher said two sentences that shocked me unexpectedly.  

She said, “It was not your fault that your parents had conflicts. You were not responsible for their happiness!”

Imagine that your parents argue and you hear your name in the discussions. What would a small child conclude?   “It is my fault and I am responsible to fix it”

Although mentally I could accept the teacher’s sentences. I realized that I emotionally believed otherwise until that time!

That day, I felt relief and sadness within me. A voice kept telling me: “It was not my fault!”. “I am not responsible to make people happy!”

I felt lost and sad like the time when I lost my job. At that time I kept asking myself, “who am I without a job?” This time I asked myself “who am I without being responsible for happiness of others?”

I can imagine as children we may have accepted certain beliefs about our surroundings or may have taken on responsibility for being physically, sexually or mentally abused by others. Some of us may blame ourselves by saying only if we had tried harder or something similar. This is a very heavy burden to carry for a small child.

Take a moment, and think about what you may have accepted as your responsibility as a small child and still carry it out as an adult without realizing it up till now.

Let this sentence sink in within you.

It was not your fault!

Copyright @2019 by Shervin Hojat

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On becoming Your Best Friend

by Shervin on September 8, 2019

Will you commit to accept and support yourself no matter what you may experience?

If your answer is yes, congratulations!  You are a great friend to yourself.

If your answer is no or you hesitated a bit, congratulations! There is something to dig deeper if you choose to do so.

Most of us give to others when they need help.

I bet you as a reader of this blog, if you see a friend in the parking lot with a panic attack, you will approach the person and try to comfort them without judging.

The question is why we cannot do the same thing for ourselves? Is it lack of self-love, or arrogance that we should be better than others or something else?

Also, have you ever thought of consequences of not accepting and supporting yourself?

Do you think such a person will feel safe and secure? How about having enough self-confidence?

I have a confession to make! This is what I have done in the past. I did not support myself.

I was not aware of this issue so clearly, but I kept asking myself why I react certain way and often look outside of myself for security, emotional support and encouragement. Over time it became very clear to me why.

For example, if I became angry; I judged myself about feeling angry rather than acknowledging the felling and telling myself I can see why I may feel that way; I also did not tell myself no matter what I am going through I will support the part of me that is upset. It is like talking to your good friend who is upset.

I have started being a better friend to myself. I have noticed a big difference in how I react and feel toward outside events now; I am more calm and confident. I know no matter what happens Shervin has my back.

Are you willing to be your own cheerleader and friend no matter what your situation is?

Are you willing to be committed to yourself without any agenda or conditions?

Are you willing to be your own best friend?

Copyright @2019 by Shervin Hojat

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Making Sense of Difficult Emotions

by Shervin on August 25, 2019

Emotions sometimes confuse us. We may feel our emotions but we need to know that we are not the emotion.

I sometimes get confused about my own emotions.

I am happy that I can experience anger, grief, love and joy. I also can cry easily which is not typical of most men.

Sometimes I get stuck in sadness, resentment and disappointment. I may spend lots of time trying to analyze why I feel that way and judging the emotion at the same time.

Experiencing emotion is part of the path but is not the destination. We are supposed to feel and acknowledge our emotions and let them go.

The question is when is it enough to feel sad or angry and stop analyzing and rehashing our story?

If the same old thoughts and beliefs keep bringing us down, when do we say enough is enough?

My teacher, keeps reminding me that our natural state is joy. If we are sad or angry, it is unnatural and only needs to be experienced temporarily.

This is a bit contradictory to my past belief and observations. In the past, my usual emotional state has not been joy. When I accomplished something I allowed myself to be joyful!

When I am in regret of past or worry about future, I cannot be in a state of joy.

We all basically operate from two overlapping modes: our soul and ego mind.

When we are in our heart we are connected to our soul. When we are in our head we are most likely connected to our ego.

Our emotions are like a map pointing us to what two versions of identities we are operating on.

Any feeling that has lower vibration is not from our soul. It is typically from our ego, beliefs and up-bringing.

Feeling of unconditional love, gratitude, kindness, empathy, peace and harmony is from our soul. 

The question is how do we connect to more of natural joy within us?

The question is answered by asking what obstacles to experiencing your joy are.

These obstacles are what you control can and change.

I can share with you some of my obstacles in experiencing more joy:

  • Expectations (I am entitled to …)
  • Beliefs of how life should be
  • My stories of past hurts
  • Habits that lowers my vibrations (lack of self-care)
  • Identifying with my ego (I have done this great work  … therefore …)
  • Codependency (if so and so are not happy I cannot be happy)

Can you list some of your obstacles to experiencing joy within?

Copyright @2019 by Shervin Hojat

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Feeling Lost

by Shervin on August 11, 2019

Last week I was late to my dance class due to a late meeting at work. As I was driving to my class, at a stop light, I tried to make a phone call. It made a wrong call and I quickly tried to hang up. I kept tapping on cancel button and nothing seemed to work!

Then all of sudden my phone switched to a different mode. It would not take in my passcode and keep repeating loud what I was typing in.

 I felt panic in my body. I felt lost!

How can I go anywhere without GPS? How can I get hold of anyone? 

I decided not to go dance. I was dealing with an emergency!!! I had to remedy this situation first. I had to find my way to an Apple store to get help. How can I go to store without my phone telling me where to go?

I drove toward direction of mall that had an Apple store. After getting lost for a while and with lots of help I found the store. I ran into store and told the technician that I really need his help!

My phone was switched to visually impaired mode, which literally made me feel lost and disoriented. It was fixed by the technician in few seconds.

I was really shocked at my dependency on something that ten years ago I could function without. 

I realized that I have stopped using my memory and stopped paying attention to how I go to places. I was also surprised on my reaction of feeling lost when I realized I am disconnected from the internet. I realized that I had over delegated too many responsibilities to my phone.

How would you feel if you do not receive phone calls, texts, emails or any news for a day?

Do you feel anxious? Why?

What aspect of your life have you over-delegated and are overly dependent on other things?

Copyright @2019 by Shervin Hojat

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Worst Case Scenarios

by Shervin on July 28, 2019

I have created many worst-case scenarios in my mind and majority of them have never materialized. They ranged from simple daily concerns to career and financial security.

We sometimes are ‘certain’ that disaster will happen, and as the result we will be embarrassed or will be rejected or will be considered a failure. If we have a strong mind and focus on such events out of fear, it may actually happen!

Certain amount of fear is good to motivate us to act. But obsession with being right about our fears and suffering constantly as a result is not beneficial to our well-being.

Over time, I have learned that my mind plays a fear game on me, if unchecked. It is like watching a horror movie, we expect the scariest scenes as part of movie’s entertainment.

I used to worry about downsizing at work even if the odds was 1 in 500. I remember being very concerned about it and wasting lots of energy on all possibilities prior to announcement.  Now when such concerns show up, I ask myself what vibration I like to experience now? And what action is in my highest interest today?

Look at your past worst-case fears:

–       How did you react to them?

–       Did they materialize?

–       Do react differently to such issues now? Why? 

Copyright @2019 by Shervin Hojat

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Preserving Your Life Energy

by Shervin on July 14, 2019

We have a finite amount of life energy.  The more joyful focused energy we have, the more we can create and manifest. Also, the higher vibration of energy we have, the easier we can experience joy.

Staying healthy mentally, emotionally and physically also require our life energy.

Losing our energy is alike losing integrity of our being. We cannot be manifest and function with joy when we have a low life energy.

Having no clear boundary and attachments are the biggest sources of energy loss.

Let us look at some examples that drain our life energy:

  • Staying in lower vibration energies such as fear, anger, hate, sorrow, regret, Jealousy and control.
  • Offering help when is not asked. We get upset when our help is rejected, or not appreciated.  Due to lack of boundary and our attachment to a specific response we lose our life energy.
  • Feeling sadness and grief of others and holding on those feelings as ours. This is different that feeling empathy and being lovingly unattached.
  • Wishing for an outcome. We plant the seed of that desire. But we attach our fears and doubts to that desire and outcome. This saps our energy and stops the seed from growing.

Imagine your energy is like a large battery with many wires tapped out from it. Each wire can be worry, doubt, control, anger, sadness or expectation. We observe main output of the battery and conclude that it does not produce (create) much. It does not – because they are so many wires drain all its energy.

Some questions to ponder:

Are you lovingly unattached most of the time?

What forms of attachments drain your energy?

How often do you experience joy during the day?

Copyright @2019 by Shervin Hojat

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