For some of us, this topic may be an abstract subject or be considered a selfish discussion.
Let us consider a loving relationship among two people.
What are some outcomes of such a relationship?
• They bring the best in each other
• They attempt to reduce pain and stress in each other
• They listen to each other
• They enjoy being together
• They forgive each other
• They show love in action
• They do not blame each other
• They respect each other
Now if you love yourself, shouldn’t the above outcomes be present for you as well?
• Do you bring the best in you?
o How often are you angry or worried during the day?
o How often do you feel joy and smile?
• Do you attempt to reduce pain and stress in you?
o Do you take time to meditate or relax?
o Do you take care of your needs?
o Do you eat the food that nurtures you?
o Do you draw a boundary on how much people and outside events may trigger you?
• Do you listen to and acknowledge your needs and feelings?
• Do you enjoy being by yourself?
o Are you busy all the time?
o Is sitting silent with yourself a torture?
• Do you forgive yourself and others?
o Remember if you stay angry, the first person that feels the anger is you
• Do you show your love by action?
o Do you buy yourself a gift with joy or you only do it for other people?
o Do you try to reduce pain in others while yourself is in pain?
o Do you ridicule or diminish what you feel?
• Do you blame everything on others?
o Blame only takes your power away and puts you at mercy of the behavior of others.
• Do you respect yourself?
When we love ourselves, we can love others freely and with ease.
Copyright @2020 by Shervin Hojat