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What We Fear The Most

Posted on April 28, 2014 by Shervin

You may have a great fear that drives you to do things, be it fear of being alone, not being useful, being helpless, being dependent or being vulnerable. What we fear the most, if not faced and made peace with, will get us when we are tired, weak, or off guard.

It is important to deal with our fears consciously and systematically. Avoiding our fears or resisting what they may be teaching us will only create more suffering and trauma in our life. What is your greatest fear?

Below is a true story of an individual with a lifelong fear of being idle and worse, dependent on others.

Lioness

The lioness ran all over the garden.

The lioness could not stay idle or be still.

The lioness was independent and
feared being stuck in a place, alone.

Then a tumor showed up on her leg.

The lioness roared, “This is not important
it will get better soon!”

After the radiation and surgery
the lioness was jumping and moving fast.

The lioness roared, “Nothing is wrong with me!”

The lioness,
forgetful,
playing with her leg, caused the infection.

She now was moving
but slowly.

Now the lioness was under watch for her own protection.

The lioness kept roaring that she is OK.

Another infection and she now was in bed
her paws tied up and not understanding why.

The lioness could no longer even scratch her face.

She was angry, fearful and confused.

The lioness can no longer walk.

The lioness has to face and accept
what she feared the most
for the greatest part of her life.

The lioness was alone, chained to a bed.
Confused,
crying for help.

Let go of resistance said a voice.

Accept what is and
suffering will end!

And so the healing continues …

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Feeding Your Energetic Body

Posted on April 13, 2014 by Shervin

There are times that we do not know that we were tense until we are relaxed. Why is that? Our body gets used to our current state no matter how stressful a situation may be.

If we have a lot of negative self-talk, even though we may know that it is not good for us, we may get used to that as well. Of course this can have side effects such as depression, mood swings and no desire to do anything.

You can wait until the symptoms show up in your body before taking action, or a couple times a day take inventory of some of your thought patterns. Ask yourself, if those thoughts were repeated to a friend, would they uplift your friend or not.

Feeding

You are a nurturer and feeder.

You feed your energetic body regularly by your thoughts and actions.

What exactly do you feed your energetic body with?

Fear, love, despair, joy or hope?

Take a minute and review what kinds of thoughts you have had already.

How often are you in a positive state of mind?

How often do you feed your fear?

How often do you feed your hope?

Your thoughts feed your emotions!

How often do you nurture the love for yourself and others?

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Trauma

Posted on March 30, 2014 by Shervin

Our life is full of trauma! Imagine an unborn child who takes the journey from the safety of mother’s womb to come into an unfamiliar world. Can you imagine how different those two worlds are?

We are born into the unknown when we are the most fragile physically and emotionally and survived the trauma. Our birth most likely will not be the last trauma that we will experience. We will face other unknowns at some time in our life. It is important to keep our perspective of a difficult situation, which may or may not be as difficult as when you were born into total unknown and complete vulnerability.

Our parents most likely welcomed us with open arms when we were born, and most likely will support us till they die. Conversely, the people who support us may not be our parents. We need to surround ourselves with people who are around us like our parents, to support and nurture us while we go through our “births”.

Birth Canal

The beats of sound

The darkness

In time the darkness and sounds become familiar

It becomes home!

After a while, home starts to become too small

It is time to move on

It is time to leave the comfort of “home”!

Ups and downs

Twists and turns

Forced into a bigger arena
unknown, unfamiliar, shocking

Strange and frightening sounds

Fear, skepticism, rejection, grief, self-pity
now rule the psyche

Nothing can be done but cry!
A cry of: what has been destroyed
A cry of: why me?
A cry of: why now?

Cries finally fade out
small eyes eventually open up

Will it be smiling faces welcoming
or
will it be angry and unsupportive faces?

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How Will It End?

Posted on March 17, 2014 by Shervin

There are times in our life that we feel everything is out of control. It may seem that the script of our life we or someone wrote for us many years ago is changing without notice!

Our previous supporters and cheer leaders have left, or worse, passed away. We may be getting older and perhaps do not know what we want to do with rest of our life.

If you are in such a situation, it is a great opportunity to co-author your new life script! Since your last life script, perhaps written many years ago, you have had many new experiences, perhaps are more mature, know what you like and don’t like and may also know what makes you happier.

Co-author

You are the co-author of your life.

Your life book is incomplete without your active participation.

You may want to know the ending now!

You may want to make sure the ending is “good”
yet you cannot describe what “good” is.

You may not have enough patience or confidence to write the next chapter
yet want to read the unwritten last chapter!

Chapters are written one at a time
yet your focus is all about endings!

Each chapter builds your character and inner strength
if you participate in its creation.

Each chapter can change the course of your destiny.

Allow the final chapter to be written by the chapters before it.

All books end eventually.

Chapters are yours to co-create.

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To Judge or Not To Judge?

Posted on February 24, 2014 by Shervin

Have you heard people say “Do not judge”? What does it really mean? How can we not judge? Does “not judging” mean we do not think or have opinions? I hope not! We are supposed to use our brain.

We judge and distinguish all the time. We judge if it is safe to cross the street. We judge if a certain food is good for us or not. These types of judgments are positive forms of judgment.

If we judge something or someone and based on that we feel better or secure as the result that is form of negative judgment.

If we identify with what we think (hence we are our opinion), and that opinion makes us feel secure, then we are judging in the negative term. The more we identify with our opinions, the more we will try to defend ourselves (hence our opinions). Increasing defense of our opinions results in greater disharmony within and with others.

Keep in mind that many judgments are self-judgments. When we judge someone, we are actually judging (separate) something within ourselves that we do not like. The key to peace of mind and soul is accepting what is within us. When we declare ownership of all the pieces within us we can transform them.

To Judge or Not To Judge?

Why is it we can harm others with no remorse?

Why is it we can ignore the plight of those whom we do not agree with?

Why is it we can label others or accuse them with ease?

Perhaps we do not feel connected with them.

Perhaps we feel we are separate from them.

Judgment for the sake of feeling secure creates separation.

Judgment for the sake of validating your worth is a path to nowhere!

Judgment of others is ultimately self-judgment!

Self-judgment is a way to discard parts of you
that you do not deem worthwhile or good.

Next time you judge or gossip about someone:
Ask yourself, “do I feel more secure about myself as a result?”
Ask yourself, “do I feel better about myself as a result?”

If yes,
this is negative judgment!

This is self -judgment!

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Loss

Posted on January 27, 2014 by Shervin

Have you ever gone through a difficult situation such as losing a job?

If not, you are both fortunate and unfortunate. Fortunate because it can be traumatic and you may not have been ready for it. Unfortunate because you will feel some emotions that usually we do not like to feel. These emotions are like water that wash away dust from our soul and help us put in perspective what is important to us.

Waves

Wave after wave

Waves of panic
Waves of shock
Waves of disbelief

Waves of denial
Waves of shame
Waves of fear

Wave after wave

Waves churning deep within
Waves washing away a comfortable identity drawn in sand

Waves destroying all known structures
within and without

Wave after wave
bringing a storm of grief and tears

Waves that shift direction and content

Waves of hope emerge

Rainbows appear on the horizon

Maybe a new beginning is good!
Maybe a new identity is better!
Maybe …

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Do I promise?

Posted on December 30, 2013 by Shervin

Marriage vows between two people are celebrated around the world. Vows are expected to be kept. Have you heard of any ceremony where people make vows to themselves?

We make promises to others through vows. How often do we make promises to ourselves? Do you have a personal vow that you recite once in a while? If not, why not?

Do I promise?

Do I promise to love myself unconditionally?

Do I promise to lift myself up when I am down?

Do I promise to stay by myself in tough times?

Do I promise to use loving words toward myself?

Do I promise to smile at myself?

Do I promise to love myself as much as I love others?

Do I promise to follow my own advice that I give to others?

Do I promise to know what I desire by listening to my feelings?

Do I promise to learn from my mistakes and do not blame anyone?

Do I promise to challenge any unloving thought about myself?

Do I promise to be in the present so I can hear myself?

Do I promise to accept my looks and body the way they are?

Do I promise to love myself in health and sickness?

Do I promise to laugh often?

Do I promise to be curious and learn new things?

Do I promise to be playful?

Do I promise to always remember myself, the magical, pure child?

Do I promise to take ownership of my feelings?

Do I promise to love myself even though others may not?

Do I promise to have confidence in myself?

Do I promise to have trust in myself?

Do I promise to be truthful with myself?

Do I promise not to compare myself to anyone else?

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Emotional Honesty

Posted on December 9, 2013 by Shervin

Do we go overboard by being too positive or negative? Do you answer every question “great” without checking how you really feel?

You may read the energy of people without them speaking a word on how they feel. They may say they are doing great without getting in touch with their feelings first. There are people who dwell so much in their feelings that it paralyzes their system. We need to identify, feel and accept our emotions. Practice acknowledging what you feel. At first it may just be sensations in your body. Then verbalize how you would like that feeling transmuted.

Emotional Honesty

Are you honest toward others?

Are you honest with yourself?

Some people let everyone know how they feel
by dumping their emotions
without permission.

Some people hide behind positive words
no matter what they are feeling.

They may feel anger, sadness, fear or numbness
yet they will tell you they are OK or doing great!

They start emotional dishonesty for themselves by
not naming their feelings.

Later on they may feel “confused” by what they feel.

When they feel OK
are they in reality feeling anger, sadness or something else?

What is the solution?

Express how you feel openly
and what you desire the outcome to be:

I feel my fearfulness and I choose to be courageous.

I feel my vulnerability and I choose to surrender to the Divine.

I feel my tiredness and I choose to be energetic.

I feel loneliness and I choose to connect with the Divine.

I feel my joyfulness and I choose to share it with you.

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Separated Pieces

Posted on November 10, 2013 by Shervin

Have you ever felt something is missing in you? Have you looked for something to fill the missing part? Can you fill in the missing part of yourself?

We sometimes are fractured due to traumas and experiences that occur mostly in childhood. As a defensive measure we let go of the pieces of us that need to be protected. These pieces needed to speak the truth, were ashamed of being wrong, felt lonely or ignored and therefore could not be acknowledged as a child.

We always look for something to fill in the missing part. Sometimes we look for others to “accept” or love those parts, before we accept and invite them into our consciousness. Nobody can make us “whole” except ourselves (others can encourage us on our path). The first part of healing or becoming whole (holy) is for us to stop judging the separated pieces within us and accept them unconditionally. What pieces of yourself have you let go of as a child?

Separated Pieces

What does it mean to be whole again?

It is not about being positive and upbeat.

It is about re-assembling the separated pieces of you.

The parts that you do not want to face.

The parts whose presence creates intense emotions within you.

The parts that desire to speak their truth.

The parts that desire to express their needs.

The parts that felt lonely.

The parts that were not heard.

The parts that made mistakes.

The parts that were not recognized.

The parts that were fearful.

The parts that felt the intense feeling of separation.

The parts that felt the perceived betrayal of a loved one.

Are you willing to be whole again?

Are you willing to accept those separated parts?

Are you willing to listen to their stories?

Are you willing to feel their pain of separation?

Are you willing to feel the joy of reuniting the separated parts?

Are you willing to be whole again?

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Void Within

Posted on October 27, 2013 by Shervin

Sometimes the urge for connection and closeness is so intense and deeply rooted that we may unconsciously do anything to feel connected. We may socialize with friends who are not in our best interest. We may allow people to literally “suck” our energy so that we feel liked and loved.

Most of the time, we may not be aware of this subconscious urge to feel connected and the reason for it (avoiding the void within). By avoiding the void within we may do things to feel wanted. We may find people to “fix”, have children, or get a pet to distract us.

What do you do to feel connected and needed? What situations make you feel connected? Are you aware of this urge within?

Running from the Void Within

Lost and lonely
in the crowded field
not knowing what was driving him

Searching
for connection in the vastness
to fill in his emptiness.

Craving to be seen and noticed
noticing everyone.
hoping for a meager notice in return.

Strategy is to
lure someone close enough
to be seen and feel connected.

Knowing he will be devoured
at least they need to get close to him for that!

Knowing the encounter is not in his best interest.

Yet something within him has a strong pull.

They take his energy
He sacrifices himself.

Interaction with others helps him fill the void within!

What he looks for
is closer than he thinks.

He embraces the void within.

Out of which
strength, wisdom and
vision of who he really is emerges.

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Experiencing Reflections

Posted on September 16, 2013 by Shervin

One summer I took an Alaskan cruise with my wife. During the trip I met many people whose traits I admired (including the wait staff with their varied international backgrounds). I also noticed several people whom I did not want to be close to or sensed something was off about them.

We all have heard that what we see or feel about people (especially if there is a strong charge) is a reflection of ourselves. I am reporting to you what I experienced is not something out there about people, rather people reflecting something about me inside of me.

Next time when you reflect about other people (positive or negative), keep in mind that it may have nothing to do about them and is all about you, if you are willing to listen to the messages.

What You Experience

What a man sees and experiences outside is what he has within himself and may not be aware of.

This is what a man experienced himself through experiencing and observing people.

He experienced part of him over-indulging and feeling entitled.

He experienced part of him excited about his new choices and his new found courage.

He experienced part of him optimistic and joyful no matter where he was.

He experienced part of him gentle and caring knowing his days were numbered on this planet.

He experienced part of him motivated and hard working.

He experienced part of him trying hard to get more out of what he put in.

He experienced part of him seeing people as separate tribes of people.

He experienced part of him gentle and considerate so he would be appreciated and liked.

He experienced part of him occupied with lack and pure survival.

He experienced part of him trying to control events and outcomes.

He experienced part of him trying to be quiet so secrets were not verbalized.

He experienced part of him sticking to principles no matter what the cost.

He experienced part of him wanting to be close and loved.

He experienced part of him dedicated to family and being together.

He experienced being separated from his children in order
for his children to survive and to thrive.

He experienced part of him with many unmet desires and yet smiling.

He experienced part of him who was in a beautiful structure yet could not enjoy it.

He experienced part of him having a good appearance and yet hiding many perceived “flaws”.

He experienced part of him having to leave family and country to better his family’s lives.

He experienced part of him providing relaxation to others but not relaxed himself.

He experienced part of him angry at his mate yet could not express it.

He experienced part of him using fear and guilt to nudge others to do things.

He experienced part of him happy to connect with different cultures.

He experienced part of him proud of hardships he has gone through.

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Fig Tree

Posted on August 18, 2013 by Shervin

Nature is the greatest teacher. My fig tree is a great reminder for me every summer.

In the summer, I enjoy eating fresh figs. Over the years, I have learned that if I move to another spot under the tree and look up I can find another handful of figs even after I thought I had picked them all. If I am rigid and stubborn, I can say there is no more fruit. I am correct if I do not change my perspective! If I just move an inch or two and change my view, I can see many more!

What does this have to do with your life? What if you are in a difficult situation and feel there are no blessings, solutions, or meanings in your life? Challenge yourself and look at the problem from a different angle and see the many blessings that were hidden from you.

Change Perspective

Look up!

There are the blessings.

There are even more that are not seen.

Your current view is limited.

Step back.

Look again.

There are more!

Do not give up yet.

Step to the right.

Step to the left.

If you do not see them
it does not mean they are not there!

Change your perspective.

Expect to see your blessings from this new perspective.

New blessings show themselves
when seen from your new perspective!

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If Only

Posted on July 8, 2013 by Shervin

We all take different paths to fill the void within us. Each of us may take a different path based on our perspectives. The irony is that in the search for filling the void we may hate or disrespect a part of ourselves, and ignore our well being thinking if we deny our feelings, look outside for fulfillment or “fix” ourselves then we will feel whole, lovable and complete. The truth of the matter is that what we need and desire it is already available to us, we just need to open our “eyes” and see them.

If Only

If only I learn the next subject
will I feel valuable?

If only I hear the next “I love you”
will I feel lovable?

If only I hear the next “thank you”
will I not be resentful?

If only I can afford the “next gadget”
will I feel worthy?

If only I have “this much” money
will I feel secure?

If only I am heard and noticed
will I be happy?

If only I am acknowledged by peers and family
will I feel loved?

How many such statements have you repeated?

How has it worked for you?

It is like drinking salty water to quench your thirst!
Your thirst will never will quenched.

Perhaps your attention needs to be directed inward.

If only I face and welcome my emotions
I am free.

If only I am silent and listen
I feel connected.

If only I accept myself
I feel my love.

If only I connect with me
I am whole.

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How Am I?

Posted on June 5, 2013 by Shervin

Have you ever asked yourself “How am I?”

We are many times, mostly out of habit, been asked, “How are you?” Depending on our mood, we may say “Ok” or “not bad” or “good” or ”can be better” or “wonderful” or “bad” or ” terrible”, which are all a judgment of what we feel.

Typically we just say OK or good because we feel this is not a real inquiry or we do not want to talk about whatever is going in our lives, or perhaps we have not paid attention to how we are feeling!

Practice this for twenty-one days: Ask yourself every day: “How am I?” Then, take deep breaths and let the question resonate in your body. What new insights come up?

How Am I?

Let me take a deep breath
before I answer out of compulsion.

Let me ask my body before I say
“good” or “bad”!

Let me ask my organs in my body
before I utter words!

My body’s response will not be words
“good”, “bad” or “super”!
This is the language of my ego!

Inquire within, “How am I?”
with patience and care.

This is not about the “correct” answer
to look good or get sympathy.

This is an inquiry within from an outside source!

This inquiry is about recognizing sensations in your body
and verbalizing your findings with no judgment!

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Giving Back

Posted on May 26, 2013 by Shervin

Do you have a mindset that you have to give back as soon as you receive kindness, an object or a complement?

I recall mentioning to a friend that her hair-cut looked nice; she immediately replied that my hair looked good too! This is a simple example that we feel uncomfortable receiving a complement and want to give it back without completely receiving it!

What to do if you are uncomfortable receiving even simple complements? The simplest thing is to pause, allow yourself to let the energy of the complement soak into your body, take a deep breath and after few seconds say thank you!

It takes practice to receive with ease! It is actually like giving, it is fun and enjoyable to receive. We all deserve to receive!

Giving Back

The proud eagle soared in the sky.

He said:
I am uncomfortable receiving so many blessings!

Oh Sun, what can I do for you?

You have been so kind to me.

Oh Wind, what can I do for you?

I always felt you near me supporting me.

Oh Land, what can I do for you?

You have been a source of food and nourishment for me.

Wind’s whisper echoed in the canyons from the four corners:

Receive with ease our Universal gifts!

Soar in the sky with ease.

All we ask is that you be Yourself!

This is the best way to give back!

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Demented Love

Posted on May 12, 2013 by Shervin

Over 5.3 million people are diagnosed with dementia in the US and over 24 million worldwide. These numbers may mean nothing to us unless we personally experience the impact this dis-ease has on the people around us.

My mother has symptoms of dementia. One of the most difficult things to do is to stand by while your loved one(s) experience the symptoms of this dis-ease. It is important to step into the shoes of the people who experience this dis-ease and have love and compassion for them.

This Mother’s Day, take a moment and appreciate all the Mothers, especially those who are experiencing the effects of dementia.

Love Me!

My world has been turned upside down.

I often do not know where I am.

Whose house is it?

Who am I?

What has happened to me?

I wake up and go to bed fearful, always fearful.

Things are so complicated!

I love peace and tranquility.

Why do people around me get upset and angry at me?

I just do not remember things.

I feel the tension around me and I do not know why.

I just want to be peaceful and loved!

Talk to me with simplicity, dignity and love.

Touch and hold me often.

Like a mother loving a child.

Help me feel secure and safe in this world I am unable to remember.

All I want is to be loved and know everything will be OK.

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For The First Time

Posted on April 28, 2013 by Shervin

I participated in a Family Constellation session based on a method pioneered by Bert Hellinger (http://www2.hellinger.com/en/home/). After a short relaxation and creation of individual intentions, the session started. The facilitator, Phyllis Lejeune, was a gentle soul and created a safe environment to tap deeply into everyone’s emotional body. In a typical constellation, a person who is the most emotionally compelled is invited to select representatives from the group to represent their family members.

As we discussed what was going on for everyone, I felt sadness in my heart related to my family and asked for the creation of a constellation. People in the group started representing my family and everyone shared their feelings and insights. By allowing myself to be open and having a desire to feel my inner child grief, with help of the group I was able to transform my unconscious grief into joy. I highly recommend trying Family Constellation as a means of getting in touch with your hidden emotions, understanding your feelings and ultimately bringing joy to your inner child.

Please contact Phyllis Lejeune (PhyllisLejeune@gmail.com) who lives in Austin, Texas, if you desire to participate in a Constellation session.

For the First Time

For the first time in my memory
Mom and Dad were talking with each other calmly
without yelling, insulting or blaming each other.

The child in me was shocked with disbelief.

For the first time in my memory
Mom and Dad took responsibility for their actions.

The child in me was amazed and crying out in joy.

For the first time in my memory

I did not need to intervene or feel responsible for their
arguments.

The child in me was calm and peaceful.

I realized how much emotional pain their arguments
burdened my child within.

The child in me could just observe and be.

The child in me was no longer responsible
for the unhappiness of my parents.

The child in me is smiling
with expansive joy and gratitude.

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Unfortunate Events

Posted on April 14, 2013 by Shervin

Have you ever received a phone call and the person on the other end was so upset it seemed as though something terribly unfortunate had happened? And, after talking and discussing the events/issues, the one who called realized it really was not as bad as he/she thought?

Our ego has a protection mechanism based on fear, mainly the fear of survival. Ego tells us if such and such happens, it will be the end of us! In most cases, the situation may be emotionally intense and difficult to experience. Our ego does not understand how resilient we are. In many cases, the depth of intense emotion, combined with the loss of something dear helps us grow spiritually; something that is not within the comprehension of our ego.

What do you consider a really unfortunate event? An unfortunate event is when we lose and compromise our soul. The loss of our soul is the ultimate tragedy for which we need to be vigilant and protective. Any other event is manageable since we have our driving source (soul) within us alive and active.

Unfortunate Events

What is the most unfortunate event/tragedy you can imagine?

Your favorite sport team’s loss?

Dead end career?

Gloomy retirement?

Big tax bill?

Losing a job?

Losing a lover?

Losing someone?

Loss of a limb?

Death?

What is the biggest tragedy that will
impact your essence?

The biggest tragedy is to lose our soul’s voice and connection to all that is.

Think about your most unfortunate event as if it has already happened.

Did it cause a loss of your soul?

Did you lose your voice, joy and heart connection?

Be vigilant against big and little events
where your soul’s essence may be compromised.

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Healing Crises

Posted on March 17, 2013 by Shervin

When we experience a feeling (pain, not being loved, not wanted…) and we feel threatened by our feelings we may repress them.

As we heal ourselves emotionally and spiritually, those repressed feelings (memories) will naturally surface to be healed. These repressed and typically unwanted feelings are available to us to be felt in our body and to be acknowledged with enthusiasm (no resistance) which then transmutes into healing energy and love.

We may experience “negative” feelings and symptoms when we are detoxifying our body. It is important to be aware of where we are in our healing (physically, emotionally) process. Sometimes the return of “old” symptoms may be an indication of our healing and needs to be celebrated instead of resisted.

Healing Crises

She said with sorrow and tears:

“I want to die.”

“I have no reason to live.”

“I have failed in everything I have done.”

“What is the meaning of my life?”

He replied:

“Life is what you make of it.”

“Nobody can tell you what your life should mean.”

“Have you felt like this before?”

She replied:

“I hate feeling so empty. I feel pain all over my body.”

After a long delay and soul searching she replied:.

“Yes. As a child.”

He replied:

“Perhaps you are healing what you could not face as a child.”

“You are not getting worse. You are getting better!”

“Be OK with what you are experiencing. Welcome it!”

“Your healing is an indication of love returning.”

She replied:

“Yes. Love!”

“That is what I forgot about!”

“The person that I loved the most hurt me the most.”

“I have equated love with hurt.”

“I avoided feeling hurt and hence I avoided love!”

“Ahah! I get it now.”

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Shame of Being

Posted on March 4, 2013 by Shervin

Do you worry if your friends may not like or approve of you? If so, you probably have some reactive charge within you. Perhaps it may be the feeling of a child who does not like disapproval or ridicule and perhaps as a result you are avoiding feeling the childhood feelings again.

Intellectually, we may know that we should not care what other people think about our thoughts, careers or how we express ourselves. However, we may not understand this emotionally!

If we, in the past, were ridiculed and have not resolved what we have felt, then we are carrying a charge within us. To remove or let go of this charge, usually negative, we are sometimes required to feel the same feeling (remember) when we were shamed or ridiculed. By facing, welcoming, and loving what we are feeling, the reactive power of that event will be able to be released.

Shame of Being

Lurking in the dark corner of the room
a person stares at me.

The critical voice of an adult
index finger wagging.

You should not be this way.
What is wrong with you?
You are stupid!

The voice echoed with a tone of superiority
crushing the young soul.

Willing to face the critical voice,
the fear and threat of humiliation
are transmuted into courage.

Focused eye of a child
now in an adult body
looks toward the dark corner.

I am no longer afraid of you!

I do not need your approval!

I forgive you!

I allow me
to be comfortable
with me!

I am more than I ever imagined!

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Shervin Hojat, Ph.D.

What We Fear The Most

Feeding Your Energetic Body

Trauma

How Will It End?

To Judge or Not To Judge?

Loss

Do I promise?

Emotional Honesty

Separated Pieces

Void Within

Experiencing Reflections

Fig Tree

If Only

How Am I?

Giving Back

Demented Love

For The First Time

Unfortunate Events

Healing Crises

Shame of Being

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